2014 came and (good riddance) went! It was by far the most challenging year for the country beginning with the loss of a Malaysia Airline’s Boeing 777 MH 370 in March with 239 passengers and crew. The wide-bodied plane just vanished without a trace, then followed by another aviation disaster with almost a similar amount of lives perished to bookend the year. Another Malaysian Airlines Flight MH17 was shot down with a missile by Russian-controlled forces while flying over eastern Ukraine! On the political front, it was the usual turbulence; home front, mom had a nasty fall at home and broke her left femur; career-wise, the usual cocktail of frustrations especially coming from a narcissistic supervisor as well as some minor triumphant achievements. Otherwise, mmm…
Mom’s accident from the fall after missing a step while running down the stairs hugging her sewing kit in October had me moved back to care for her and Dad. She spent about 3 weeks at the hospital with me having to juggle between home and hospital making sure each was taken care of sufficiently. Shortly before her mishap, I was already feeling somewhat concerned if I was doing the right thing leaving two aged folks alone every night for the expense of my privacy/space/quietness, and that went on for the past 7-plus years. They have assured me of being fine and sworn off any domestic help after catching the last one stealing money from Dad’s wallet!
Shortly after Mom’s stint at the hospital, there were no other thoughts or needed deliberation to move back! That was the ONLY solution. At least I know for sure that there will be no anxiety thinking of them in the middle of the night now or anytime these two fail to pick up their handphones.
The engagement of a private nurse was inevitable for Mom for at least until she got better. It will be financially challenging for me but I have a demanding job or more from the ego-centric supervisor’s insecurities and I need my job to pay for the nurse’s expertise in taking care of my mom and also dad as a bonus out of the nurse’s kindness.
We all know the days of letting go of our beloved ones are a certainty (and who knows if I may even be the first to bid adios before anyone else in my family). Life, as we all know, is so uncertain, fragile, and ridiculously fleeting, therefore I prefer to savor the time that I still have with my folks. I know there will be trying times to the extreme but I also guarantee those wisdom-inducing moments that are or will be priceless.
There is also the irony of initially preparing a bedroom downstairs for my dad due to his weak knees and inevitably ended up being mom’s room after her incident (and dad got to go to another room that used to be my studio). Stuff from my own house is now gradually shifting back to my parents. So much for plans but I know my priorities and how they have changed and will keep on changing.
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